I’m
well aware that things in life aren’t always black and white. Every situation
presents itself to us through our own unique perspective tainted by our
experiences, biases and judgments. That’s why following a set of principles and
values help us cut through to what’s wrong and right when life doesn’t seem as
straightforward.
When
I think about my friendship with P, I know I’ve learned a lot from her. She’s a
person who has really broadened my outlook on life. I’ve realised that P is
someone who views everything that
comes her way in different shades of grey. She lives in a world where there’s
room for both right and wrong to
co-exist at once.
To
be honest, when I saw that P was in a new relationship with an older man, I was
worried. I thought she wasn’t doing the right
thing. But I was looking at it only through my own subjective viewpoint.
I’m
slowly starting to see a pattern in the disagreements and fights P and I have,
and it’s simply because we interpret situations differently! After so many
weeks of distance from P, I’m casting caution aside, and for the first time… putting
my faith in the grey area.
For
example, the odds were stacked up against me during my recent plagiarism
allegation, and there was no way for my teachers to know I didn’t do it for
sure. But they chose to put their faith in the grey area of my circumstances,
and above all, they chose to put their faith in me above what was black and
white. So why should P not expect the same from her best friend?
More
than anything, I want just want P to be happy. That’s the simple truth. So the
fact that her living conditions and well-being have improved because of someone
new in her life, is something I want to be able to celebrate, not doubt.
P
and I are just fundamentally different, and I’m (finally!) understanding that
that’s okay. And though I don’t like to admit it, I’m starting to recognise
that sometimes, the grey areas in our lives are the most authentic parts of us
– so why not embrace it?
Until
Next Time!
Xoxo Fru Fru Shru
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