Excess Baggage Support
My trip to Chiang Mai was
exactly what I needed. The change of scenery felt like a cathartic release, and
also gave me the chance to reconnect with one of the most important people in
my life, P!
I promised myself that this
year I would show her I can be a more supportive friend… but little did I realise
how tough that would be! Whether it was her irresponsible spending habits or her
avoiding talking about W, slowly but surely, red flags started popping up
everywhere!
So naturally, my first
instinct was to confront her and tell her she was making a big mistake. But… I just
knew I had to keep my promise to
myself. So I mustered every ounce of restraint in me, and tried to understand
where she was coming from, instead of simply assuming things.
Trust me, it wasn’t easy at
all! But whenever I felt an urge to stop and shake P to make her come to her
senses, I imagined what I would do if I were in her shoes… and that’s when I
realised that all my judgment, even if it comes from a good place, isn’t
necessarily helpful for P.
On
this trip, I also realised that despite the strong front P puts forth, she
still wears the same shell of insecurities underneath. And in a way, aren’t we
all just as insecure and confused about what we want at this age? Maybe our
issues are different, but we’re still in the same boat of unknowing… about what we want, who we are, and where we’re going,
right? So who am I to know “better?”.
I’m not going deny that
sometimes holding back my feelings was extremely difficult, but this trip
helped me to see that when she’s in a vulnerable and fragile state, she needs
my support and kindness more than my judgment – and I honestly can’t believe it
took me so long to figure this out!
Xoxo
Fru Fru Shru
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